Therapeutic Motivational Respite – Defined

Therapeutic respite is regularly scheduled to give the family a break from the day to day pattern of interacting with the child. Therapeutic motivational respite (TMR) is set up when the child has regressed to such a level that a change of venue is needed in order to motivate him to “shift gears.” It is usually easier for a child with a disturbed attachment to do things correctly for others, rather then his mother. TMR gives the child an opportunity to practice those behaviors he needs to demonstrate at home but has not been able to due to the fear of attachment. TMR is a safe place for the child to shift mental gears, get back on track and return home with positive skills. TMR should never be punishment or punitive. It should always be opportunity.

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Goals of Therapeutic Respite and TMR for Child

• Chores done efficiently and right the first time
   
• High level of task completion
   
• Go to room quietly and quickly the first time asked
   
• Stay in room until given permission to come out
   
• Develop good self control skills
   
• Develop respect
   
• Develop healthy communication skills, especially listening
   
• Develop responsibility
   
• Develop ability to be enjoyable to be around
   
• Develop appropriate expression of feelings
   
• Develop the ability to accomplish whatever task the child refused to do that exhausted the parents and caused him to need respite

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The Structure of Respite
The key word is structure! Therapeutic respite is highly structured for three reasons. One, it increases a child’s sense of safety when events are under the control of parents. Two, the high degree of structure makes home look more appealing. Three, much has to occur in respite in order to get the child moved back home quickly and the more structured the opportunity the more quickly the child can accomplish the goal. The steady influence of tight structure encourages the brain to rewire itself around the necessary skills.

Shadow Program

What is the Shadow Program? It is where I come into your home and help you spot the little things that you might not catch.

What is a small thing? It can be them not looking at you eye to eye stand straight and tall not moving with their arms to their side.

What other ways will this help? This will help you get a program together for your child to get them on track. To help get you and your spouse on track and on the same page. We would set down in the evenings to go over some ideas and toss around ideas that will help your family.

Need references I will be able to provide that for you.

The fees:

$100.00 a day + plus mileage round trip.

I do recommend going to a camp first before this so we are all on the same page. Plus you will get to meet me and I will get to know your family. It is a lot easier to work with the families that have been to camp and understand what is going on.

 

Goals of the Parents

• Relax

• Don’t worry

• Do not continually discuss the child

• Do something that’s fun

• Use time away to build up relationships that have suffered from the child’s presence

• LAUGH LOTS

 

The goal of respite is for the child to return home!!!!! And STAY home!!!!!

 

Overview of Philosophy and Goals of Therapeutic Respite and TMR Providers

• Trust Parents

• Listen primarily to parents

• Be guided by parents and therapist as to what constitutes appropriate respite for the child at this time

• Communicate with parents

• Check out FIRST with parents what child says

• Avoid triangulation and manipulation

• Mean business without being mean

• Provide safe, business like environment

• No bonding activities

• Avoid competing with parents for child’s good will

Short Term Respite:

New Prices

The cost for Motivational Respite is $80.00 for every day except for holidays*. When deciding how many days you will be required to pay half down and the rest when you arrive. It's an extra $80.00 for weekends.

 

*Holiday fees:

Will be $160.00 for every Holiday

 

Need just a weekend

Wanting your child to stay just a weekend.

Fee will be $400.00 Fri-Sun. Drop of Friday & Pick Up Sunday

 

Needing Pick Up and other Exp.

We can arrange pick-up and drop-off for the fee of $40.00 an hour.

Any damages child has done while working on life (ex. damaging walls, breaking items). They will need to work at home to make the money back to pay you back. When this happens we will go over ways they can pay you back.

Emergency Fees: Needing me to take your child less thank a week notice it will be $160.00.

Wanting your child to fly to or from or both: It is not recommended we talk about taking away their power and that gives them a lot of power. Then we are back to square one and then you will feel this was for nothing. If you decide you still want to go that direction though the cost is $120.00

Canceling fees will be your half down.

 

Example of fees:

10 day stay. With less than a week notice. including a weekend.

10 days = 720 + less than 1 wk notice = 160 + weekend = 160 Ur Total would be $1040.00

10 Days with a holiday would be:

10 days $720.00 + holiday = $80.00 + weekend $160.00 =  $960.00

10 Days with traveling and a weekend.

10 days = $720 + $160 weekend = 880 + mileage ???

10 Days including weekend, traveling to pick up and airport to drop off

10 days = $720 + $160 weekend + $120 airport to pick up = $1000.00 + mileage to drop off ???

 

About Me

I have been working with children with Reactive Attachment Disorder for 4 years. I have helped to arrange 5 camps and working on our 6th and also put together a 2 day seminar. I have been trained under Nancy Thomas. I have worked with several families that have children with RAD. I am hoping I can help you to relax and enjoy life and spending time with your family.

 

I have been happily married for over 7 years and we have 2 wonderful boys. I am self employed and home school our 2 boys. We live on a big farm so there is plenty of work to do on the farm so I can definitely keep your child busy!!

 

My parents adopted my sister when she was 3 years old. She was diagnosed when she was 3 she is now 16. Even though she is not 100 % she is well on her way. I decided that I wanted to help other mothers when I seen a need for my mom when my sister was younger. So I hope I maybe able to help you to relax and help your family.

 

Contact Christie for more information by Email or Phone # 615-765-7124